Anticipatory Grief: When You’re Losing Someone Who’s Still Alive Grief doesn’t always begin after someone dies. Sometimes it starts earlier, when someone you love is still here, but changing. When you know, on some level, that things are not going back to how they were. This is what we call anticipatory grief. What it can feel like Anticipatory grief can be confusing because there is no clear moment of loss. You might notice: Waves of sadness that feel out of place Irritabili

Why You Need Reassurance and Why It Never Feels Like Enough A lot of people I work with feel embarrassed about how much reassurance they need in relationships. They’ll say things like:“I know it’s too much”“I don’t want to be this way”“I just want to feel secure without asking” But needing reassurance doesn’t come from nowhere. It usually comes from a place that has learned, at some point, that connection is uncertain. What’s actually happening Reassurance is not just about t

The 3-Part Cycle of Addiction: Urge, Permission, Aftermath A lot of people think addiction is about willpower. That if you could just “be stronger” or “try harder,” things would change. But most of the people with addiction don’t struggle because they don’t care. They struggle because they’re caught in an addiction cycle that happens quickly, often outside of conscious awareness. When you slow it down, addiction tends to follow three parts: urge, permission, and aftermath. 1.